Lawyers are some of the most disagreeable people you will meet. Law schools attract egomaniacs, narcissists, greedy people, and even snakes. There is something that being at war constantly does to a soul. Of course, we are not real soldiers. We fight not with guns or drones, or missiles. We carry no physical armor or swords. We fight with our wits and our tongues. We play mind games. We have no mercy.
Sure, there must be some decent opponents out there. Most times I think most opponents are honorable, but not today. We fight over dates, discovery extensions, semantics. We can be bullies. We manipulate. All to gain some rather undefined benefit, that, in the end either makes no difference, or sometimes even hurts our cases.
In negotiations, there is no cutting to the chase. That's too direct to be part of the game. If it suits our purpose, we will go after the plaintiff's daughter who can't admit she was sexually abused and make that a central feature of a case where it is irrelevant. Kindness and mercy are not in our vocabulary.
if one of the lawyers has serious illness in the family, we either bend over backwards to accommodate, especially if we lose nothing strategy-wise OR we pretend that nothing deserves special consideration and we ignore the opponent's pain for our advantage.
Some of us only care about money, not our clients. We are always posturing, posturing, posturing, and then we pound our chests.
Doesn't this game of one-ups-manship grow old for others. Law is supposed to be an honored profession. We are the keepers of justice and civilization. What has gone wrong. Is our selfishness and bullying antithetical to maintaining justice in a modern society? Of course. Maybe I just had a bad day. I hope so. No wonder lay people hate us.