Monday, January 25, 2016

How To Deal With Failure

When clients come to me, something really bad has usually happened. Getting fired is devastating. Employers can, at times, have the power to destroy not on;u ones ability to put food on the table, but also  to love the face in the mirror.

We all have to deal with devastating blows in life  - rejection in love, work, or in society. We all lose loved ones to death. Many of us have financial problems, children acting out, disease and death of loved ones, and mental illnesses of us and loved ones We are all going to die. So what's the point?

We humans are made to be resilient. But, we are human nonetheless.

When tragedy strikes:

1.  Lean into the pain.  A friend told me that once. It means face the pain, don't run. If you run, the pain will keep chasing you.

2.  Do not wallow in self-pity, seek professional help if necessary.

 3Get help from friends and family (but avoid plastering Facebook.).  Vulnerability is often strength, not weakness. Your friends want to help. 

4. Do things for others, give of yourself without thought of taking.

5.  Meditate, exercise, or do whatever to stop thinking about yourself. 

6.  Keep rolling on. Persist.  Be spontaneous and present. Don't dwell on the past.

7. Accept responsibility for your part, learn from it, and forgive yourself. 

Every failure is a lesson. Keep moving. If you can't bounce back alone, get help. Life is full of failure. It's what you do after the failure that makes the difference.

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