This "Alt-Right" revival, or as it more accurately should be called "neo-Nazi" revival, seems to be in full swing. The meeting in D.C. with this guy named Richard Spencer exemplifies the worst in America. After his Anti-Semitic rant, he quoted Nazi propaganda in its original German and then he gets a front page story, complete with a photo shoot in the LA Times. I am sure Steve Bannon is proud big left unchecked, racism, misogyny, and anti-Semitism and their advocacy as set to run amok in America. I guess 8 years of a Black president was too much for a bunch of scared, insecure racists and they want to fight back.
It was a blow to me and I am sure to other women that a highly qualified woman was defeated by a temperamentally unsound man. I thought it was finally time where little girls could understand that their possibilities were limitless. Not so, America. And now we experience a resurgence of hate.
According to people like Richard Spencer, I am not white because I am a Jew. I am an older female Jew who represents African-Americans, Asians, women and gays in discrimination cases. I know to the misguided White-Privilege deniers, the group suffering the most discrimination in this country are white men. Poppycock. These men do mot see that white men control the world. Depriving people of privilege is different than active discrimination. The Alt-Right Nazi groups have no use for women like me. They are too afraid and insecure to respect others. They are motivated by fear and hatred.
White people have privilege in this country. Men have privilege in this country. Is equality even a possibility? I am sure that I will receive troll responses stating about the sorry state of white men in this country. Half of my family is comprised of white men. My husband and son are white men. Yet the men in my family acknowledge that they are not being oppressed because of their whiteness or because of their maleness. They know they have privileges in society that they do not really deserve.
What will it take for there to be a woman in the White House? Can we eliminate racism, sexism, homophobia, Islamophobia? I don't know. People do not willingly give up privilege and power. As Dr King stated, "Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed."
Tuesday, November 22, 2016
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Sunday, November 13, 2016
The Glass Ceiling
Last night, I watched SNL. Chris Rock and Dave Chapelle made a crack about how Obama was a charismatic 40 year old man, while Hillary was just a 70 year old woman. While I am a big fan of Obama, I don't think he is a good President because he is young, cool and hip. I guess women have an expiration date which makes them lose their freshness years before a man goes rancid. I am sick of this. Donald Trump is a 70 year old braggart of avman who admitted to sexual assault, denigrated Mexicans, and bullied other candidates. Most lawmakers are old white men with little charisma. Donald Trump made a crack about Hillary's looks, apparently thinking that he is God's gift to women. Hillary made some bad decisions, such as the email server. But Donald Trump's life is filled with horrible decisions. If Hillary had five children by three different men, you can be sure that she would never have been a serious candidate.
I am sick of the double standard. Women are judged by their looks and their youth, while male politicians can be downright disgusting, old and nasty and get away with it. I think Bernie Sanders is great. However, if he was a woman, do you think he would have come under more scrutiny? Would Donald Trump have commented on his view of Sanders from the rear? What if a woman had denied fondling young men by saying they were not good looking enough to be fondled?
When I was a young lawyer, I was told that I had to make sure I did not appear too aggressive or too passive, because women have to watch how they are perceived. I was instructed by a federal judge not to cry in court, although the male lawyers received no such warning. I was schooled in what type of jewelry, shoes, clothes, to wear. And above all else, I was not to get "emotional." I don't dye my hair anymore and it's gray. I realize that if I worked in big business, I, like Hillary, would be required to dye my hair in order to look younger. When I was a young lawyer, certain older male lawyers called me sweetie and dear. I could go on and on.
I am just sick of the freaking double standard. This isn't about Hillary Clinton losing as much as it is about generations of women suffering concussion after concussion while slamming their skulls against that freaking glass ceiling. Apparently that glass is bullet-proof.
I am sick of the double standard. Women are judged by their looks and their youth, while male politicians can be downright disgusting, old and nasty and get away with it. I think Bernie Sanders is great. However, if he was a woman, do you think he would have come under more scrutiny? Would Donald Trump have commented on his view of Sanders from the rear? What if a woman had denied fondling young men by saying they were not good looking enough to be fondled?
When I was a young lawyer, I was told that I had to make sure I did not appear too aggressive or too passive, because women have to watch how they are perceived. I was instructed by a federal judge not to cry in court, although the male lawyers received no such warning. I was schooled in what type of jewelry, shoes, clothes, to wear. And above all else, I was not to get "emotional." I don't dye my hair anymore and it's gray. I realize that if I worked in big business, I, like Hillary, would be required to dye my hair in order to look younger. When I was a young lawyer, certain older male lawyers called me sweetie and dear. I could go on and on.
I am just sick of the freaking double standard. This isn't about Hillary Clinton losing as much as it is about generations of women suffering concussion after concussion while slamming their skulls against that freaking glass ceiling. Apparently that glass is bullet-proof.
Saturday, November 12, 2016
Trump Backlash? Share Your Stories: stophatred16@gmail.com
Just since the election, I have heard terrifying stories of purported Trump supporters threatening people of color, women and Muslims. We cannot waste years of progress against sexism, racism, homophobia, Islamophobia, anti-semitism, etc. Obviously, many if not most, Trump supporters are not bigots, but, we know some are. For crying out loud, the KKK formally endorsed Donald Trump. If you or someone you know is attacked physically or verbally or threatened because of your race, sex, religion, sexual orientation, etc., please speak out.
If a crime is committed against you or you are in fear, contact the police. Also, please email me your story at:
STOPHATRED16@GMAIL.COM
I WILL NOT PUBLISH YOUR STORY OR TAKE ANY ACTION WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION. BUT, WE CANNOT REMAIN SILENT. WE MUST MOVE FORWARD, NOT BACKWARD.
If a crime is committed against you or you are in fear, contact the police. Also, please email me your story at:
STOPHATRED16@GMAIL.COM
I WILL NOT PUBLISH YOUR STORY OR TAKE ANY ACTION WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION. BUT, WE CANNOT REMAIN SILENT. WE MUST MOVE FORWARD, NOT BACKWARD.
Monday, October 24, 2016
Lucky To Work With Caring People at Bratcher Gockel Law
I have met and served some amazing people in the thirty-three years in which I have practiced law. My job representing civil rights clients brings me immense joy, not in small part because of the kind, talented, intelligent people with whom I am blessed to work.
1. My law partner Marie Gockel - I am fortunate that among the first people I called when I decided to start my firm was my law school chum Marie. I remember her exact words, "Can I come, too." And, a law firm was born. Marie is the hardest working, most tenacious, most intelligent lawyer I know. She never gives up. I kid her that she is the bull dog of the law profession. Perseverance is one of the most important traits of a lawyer. Plus, she and I work well together, brain-storming, with our strengths complimenting each other. For 22 years she has been great. And Marie is a great friend.
2. Our amazing staff - Ann Gloor leads our amazing staff. I have worked with her for 30 years, since both of our eldest girls were infants. She is wicked smart, hard working and kind, plus she reads my mind. Nancy Breuning has been with us for 15 years. She is diligent, a perfectionist when need be, and amazingly smart. Both Ann and Nancy are two of the kindest people I know. Within the last 5 years we hired paralegal Mike Bell. Mike has worked many years as a paralegal and is not afraid to dig into files to assess what went wrong. He, too, is extremely intelligent and hard-working. All three of the staff have been recently been blessed with grandchildren and we see videos of first steps, first words, and wide toothless smiles. What a joy.
People in our office either bring their lunches or go downstairs to the food court to buy food and bring it up. We typically sit around our old conference table, often for a little more than the "allotted" hour, looking out over the Power & Light district while chattering on about grandbabies, movies, books, our lives, or my stupid jokes to which they graciously smile. We talk about cases and what we need to do, but most of the time we just shoot the bull. We have a great team. We never give performance evaluations, because oftentimes employers feel they need to mark employees down and criticize. Our employees are so great, performance evaluations seem counter-productive. I hope everyone realize how much I appreciate tand care about them. I know I am prejudiced, but I think our law office is a wonderful place to work.
1. My law partner Marie Gockel - I am fortunate that among the first people I called when I decided to start my firm was my law school chum Marie. I remember her exact words, "Can I come, too." And, a law firm was born. Marie is the hardest working, most tenacious, most intelligent lawyer I know. She never gives up. I kid her that she is the bull dog of the law profession. Perseverance is one of the most important traits of a lawyer. Plus, she and I work well together, brain-storming, with our strengths complimenting each other. For 22 years she has been great. And Marie is a great friend.
2. Our amazing staff - Ann Gloor leads our amazing staff. I have worked with her for 30 years, since both of our eldest girls were infants. She is wicked smart, hard working and kind, plus she reads my mind. Nancy Breuning has been with us for 15 years. She is diligent, a perfectionist when need be, and amazingly smart. Both Ann and Nancy are two of the kindest people I know. Within the last 5 years we hired paralegal Mike Bell. Mike has worked many years as a paralegal and is not afraid to dig into files to assess what went wrong. He, too, is extremely intelligent and hard-working. All three of the staff have been recently been blessed with grandchildren and we see videos of first steps, first words, and wide toothless smiles. What a joy.
People in our office either bring their lunches or go downstairs to the food court to buy food and bring it up. We typically sit around our old conference table, often for a little more than the "allotted" hour, looking out over the Power & Light district while chattering on about grandbabies, movies, books, our lives, or my stupid jokes to which they graciously smile. We talk about cases and what we need to do, but most of the time we just shoot the bull. We have a great team. We never give performance evaluations, because oftentimes employers feel they need to mark employees down and criticize. Our employees are so great, performance evaluations seem counter-productive. I hope everyone realize how much I appreciate tand care about them. I know I am prejudiced, but I think our law office is a wonderful place to work.
Thursday, October 13, 2016
Tell Trump - We Are Better Than This
I voted already. I am going to be a poll observer in Florida, so I voted here. But, I cannot tear myself away from the horrible Trump train wreck. I just hope that through his horrible conduct, this scorched earth tactics, and his total lack of respect for large segments of the population, if not all of humanity, we learn a lesson. I hope we are horrified by this wretch of a human being and we realize that he is not who we are.
Women should not be judged by how large their breast are. Grabbing a woman's crotch without her consent is a crime. We are more than the sum of our parts, literally. African-Americans are not thugs condemned to live in "inner cities" where they constantly must dodge their own bullets. Latinos and Latinas are hard-working, decent, and kind human beings by nature, just as are the majority of the rest of usl
Most people are good and kind and deserve our trust and respect. Most others are honorable unless they prove otherwise. We must see the best in others, not the worst. We must teach our children to help others, not to bully them. We have our differences, and our differences are what teaches us to grow and accept others.
We must fight bigotry, whether that fight amounts to going to the polls, or legally fighting against the racial and sexual bullying. We must set examples of tolerance, humility, and charity. I believe Americans are essentially kind, caring and have moral values. We are strong and self-assured and need not denigrate others to nurse our egos. That is characteristic of Trump and his ilk, not us.
Trump is a test of our character and our resolve and we will pass this test. We are better than the horrible America he sees. We will survive this election and grow and learn from this. We are better than this. Trump is a cult-like leader who will lose. I know Americans are decent, compassionate and generous. I know that the kind, decent, caring people of this country will continue. We are a country of immigrants. We take in, "your tired, your poor, your yearning to be free."
Women should not be judged by how large their breast are. Grabbing a woman's crotch without her consent is a crime. We are more than the sum of our parts, literally. African-Americans are not thugs condemned to live in "inner cities" where they constantly must dodge their own bullets. Latinos and Latinas are hard-working, decent, and kind human beings by nature, just as are the majority of the rest of usl
Most people are good and kind and deserve our trust and respect. Most others are honorable unless they prove otherwise. We must see the best in others, not the worst. We must teach our children to help others, not to bully them. We have our differences, and our differences are what teaches us to grow and accept others.
We must fight bigotry, whether that fight amounts to going to the polls, or legally fighting against the racial and sexual bullying. We must set examples of tolerance, humility, and charity. I believe Americans are essentially kind, caring and have moral values. We are strong and self-assured and need not denigrate others to nurse our egos. That is characteristic of Trump and his ilk, not us.
Trump is a test of our character and our resolve and we will pass this test. We are better than the horrible America he sees. We will survive this election and grow and learn from this. We are better than this. Trump is a cult-like leader who will lose. I know Americans are decent, compassionate and generous. I know that the kind, decent, caring people of this country will continue. We are a country of immigrants. We take in, "your tired, your poor, your yearning to be free."
Monday, September 26, 2016
Donald Trump - The Most Dangerous Man Alive
I usually hate when people are unfairly compared to Adolph Hitler. I attempt to refrain from Hitler comparisons, because Hitler was an unimaginable monster-Svengali, bringing out the worst possible nature of millions of people. Hitler was filled with hatred. Hitler convinced millions of normal people to join his hatred and commit genocide. Hitler was the devil if there ever was a Satan in human form.
Hitler's reign of terror began with xenophobia and antisemitism and ended with horrors indescribable. Hitler started by preying on Germans' fear and anger. Within months of his election, he abolished civilized protections, ostracized Jews, gays, gypsies and others, and ended up annihilating millions.
Trump may not be a Hitler, at least I pray he is not. But like Hitler, he preys on an angry people's xenophobia and racism. Trump cares only about Trump. He has no empathy, no compassion. His rhetoric ignores Constitutional protections. He promises to engage in acts which the founding fathers wisely placed outside of a president's power.
I first voted for a presidential candidate in 1972. Retrospectively, I realize my first vote was not my wisest. I was a starry-eyed Idealist at age 19. I, at 63, am much more of a realist. Three great-uncles, three great-aunts and a cousin all perished in Auschwitz. These were my grandparents' sisters and brothers. My mother's family was lucky to escape three weeks before Kristallnacht.
This is the first time that a presidential candidate has really terrified me. He personifies hatred. History can repeat itself. We must be vigilant. No one expected a paper hanger from Austria to murder millions. This election feels like the most important election of my life.
Hitler's reign of terror began with xenophobia and antisemitism and ended with horrors indescribable. Hitler started by preying on Germans' fear and anger. Within months of his election, he abolished civilized protections, ostracized Jews, gays, gypsies and others, and ended up annihilating millions.
Trump may not be a Hitler, at least I pray he is not. But like Hitler, he preys on an angry people's xenophobia and racism. Trump cares only about Trump. He has no empathy, no compassion. His rhetoric ignores Constitutional protections. He promises to engage in acts which the founding fathers wisely placed outside of a president's power.
I first voted for a presidential candidate in 1972. Retrospectively, I realize my first vote was not my wisest. I was a starry-eyed Idealist at age 19. I, at 63, am much more of a realist. Three great-uncles, three great-aunts and a cousin all perished in Auschwitz. These were my grandparents' sisters and brothers. My mother's family was lucky to escape three weeks before Kristallnacht.
This is the first time that a presidential candidate has really terrified me. He personifies hatred. History can repeat itself. We must be vigilant. No one expected a paper hanger from Austria to murder millions. This election feels like the most important election of my life.
Friday, September 23, 2016
What Terrifies Me About Donald Trump!!!!!!!!
This blog is dedicated to courageous plaintiffs, but I notice I spend much of my time worrying about Donald Trump. I decided to write down all of the things about a potential Trump presidency that scare the shit out of me:
1. I am concerned about his personality, his lack of introspection, depth, and critical thinking.
2. Would he use atomic bombs? Maybe. He doesn't rule it out.
3. Would he use executive orders to violate the Constitution?
A. Change "libel" laws - violating the First Amendment.
B. Refuse to allow attorneys to U.S. Citizens charged with crimes. In violation of 6th Amendment.
C. Refuse citizens charged with crimes to be afforded jury trial - violation of 6th Amendment.
D. Profile and frisk "suspicious" people - violation of 14th Amendment.
E. Torture - violation of 8th and 4th, 5th Amendments.
4. He doesn't realize that there are three branches of government and he can't make and enforce laws.
5. He brings out the worst in people - Racism, sexism, xenophobia, hatred, violence.
6. He is narcissistic and self-involved.
7. He is inherently dishonest and opportunistic. I WANT TO SEE THOSE TAX RETURNS. He swindles people and takes advantage of those he can.
8. He is extremely insecure. I do not want my president to literally get into dick measuring contests. He is easily offended. A President must have thick skin and think of the country's before his. He is vindictive.
9. He is greedy and ungenerous.
10. He lacks diplomacy, intellectual curiosity and intelligence - NARCISSISM is his most obvious personality trait.
I am scared of him. I have never felt this way before in the past ten elections in which I was able to and did vote. This election is important. YIKES!!!!!!!!!!!! This is serious.
1. I am concerned about his personality, his lack of introspection, depth, and critical thinking.
2. Would he use atomic bombs? Maybe. He doesn't rule it out.
3. Would he use executive orders to violate the Constitution?
A. Change "libel" laws - violating the First Amendment.
B. Refuse to allow attorneys to U.S. Citizens charged with crimes. In violation of 6th Amendment.
C. Refuse citizens charged with crimes to be afforded jury trial - violation of 6th Amendment.
D. Profile and frisk "suspicious" people - violation of 14th Amendment.
E. Torture - violation of 8th and 4th, 5th Amendments.
4. He doesn't realize that there are three branches of government and he can't make and enforce laws.
5. He brings out the worst in people - Racism, sexism, xenophobia, hatred, violence.
6. He is narcissistic and self-involved.
7. He is inherently dishonest and opportunistic. I WANT TO SEE THOSE TAX RETURNS. He swindles people and takes advantage of those he can.
8. He is extremely insecure. I do not want my president to literally get into dick measuring contests. He is easily offended. A President must have thick skin and think of the country's before his. He is vindictive.
9. He is greedy and ungenerous.
10. He lacks diplomacy, intellectual curiosity and intelligence - NARCISSISM is his most obvious personality trait.
I am scared of him. I have never felt this way before in the past ten elections in which I was able to and did vote. This election is important. YIKES!!!!!!!!!!!! This is serious.
Sunday, September 18, 2016
My Friends Are My Friends - So Leave Me Alone
Lately, I have been criticized in the Comments section on my blog because I have a good relationship with Tony Botello. Several people indicate I shouldn't like because he is a sexist, or racist, or mean - blah, blah, blah. In fact, I got a couple of comments about Mr. Botello on a tribute I wrote about an amazing, courageous woman who just passed away. I considered deleting the comments, since they had nothing to do with the legacy of this amazing woman, but I did not. I only delete troll comments, and these comments were fair comments, but inserted in a place which I thought was inappropriate.
Apparently, as a feminist, I am supposed to have only friends or people with whom share my every view and share all of the views of all of the people who generally agree with me. I believe we are multi-faceted beings and I find it offensive that my choice of friends is subject to comment.
I am sure many people disagree with many of my beliefs or actions. So be it. That does not mean I hate people with whom I disagree. I admire that Tony believes in the First Amendment and chooses not to delete troll comments, no matter how disgusting, racist, sexist or just pathetic the commenters may be. I disagree with Tony on the comment issue. I delete troll comments. I don't post photos of women in bikinis either, nor do I intend to do so. Tony may write things you find to be offensive. Some things I find to be offensive. However, he has done some amazing work exposing malfeasance and corruption. And sometimes he makes me laugh.
I saw Louis CK and he was hilarious, and said many, many offensive things. But, he was very funny. Actually, I will forgive a lot if someone makes me laugh. Laughter is one of my most favorite things in this world. I laugh at sick things at times. Mt favorite joke is, "I want to die peacefully in my sleep like my grandfather. I don't want to die screaming and afraid like his passengers." Perhaps I am shallow or hypocritical that way, but get over it. We are all multi-faceted and hopefully we are complex human beings. Life is not black and white. I appreciate shades of grey.
Now, Tony, I will not be voting for you for president, or governor, or even mayor. You may say things with which I do not agree, but, I am not going to tell you to do or be anything but who you are. So, you commenters, or Facebook peeps who are upset with my friend choice, get over it.
Apparently, as a feminist, I am supposed to have only friends or people with whom share my every view and share all of the views of all of the people who generally agree with me. I believe we are multi-faceted beings and I find it offensive that my choice of friends is subject to comment.
I am sure many people disagree with many of my beliefs or actions. So be it. That does not mean I hate people with whom I disagree. I admire that Tony believes in the First Amendment and chooses not to delete troll comments, no matter how disgusting, racist, sexist or just pathetic the commenters may be. I disagree with Tony on the comment issue. I delete troll comments. I don't post photos of women in bikinis either, nor do I intend to do so. Tony may write things you find to be offensive. Some things I find to be offensive. However, he has done some amazing work exposing malfeasance and corruption. And sometimes he makes me laugh.
I saw Louis CK and he was hilarious, and said many, many offensive things. But, he was very funny. Actually, I will forgive a lot if someone makes me laugh. Laughter is one of my most favorite things in this world. I laugh at sick things at times. Mt favorite joke is, "I want to die peacefully in my sleep like my grandfather. I don't want to die screaming and afraid like his passengers." Perhaps I am shallow or hypocritical that way, but get over it. We are all multi-faceted and hopefully we are complex human beings. Life is not black and white. I appreciate shades of grey.
Now, Tony, I will not be voting for you for president, or governor, or even mayor. You may say things with which I do not agree, but, I am not going to tell you to do or be anything but who you are. So, you commenters, or Facebook peeps who are upset with my friend choice, get over it.
Monday, September 12, 2016
The Brief, Brave Life of Denise Henning
Denise Henning died yesterday. I don't know if it is appropriate for me to write this blog about her, but I feel compelled to do so. I cannot stop thinking about who she was and the life she lived. I feel like everyone should know her name, she was such an amazing person. I knew Denise for more than twenty years. I always liked her, always admired her, but we were not really girlfriends,
Denise was a trial lawyer. She had guts. She went to trial when others were too afraid. And, she won. I remember when she started her own firm across the street from ours. Unlike me, Denise was not satisfied just practicing law. She was truly a role model. She was a leader. She volunteered her time doing charitable things. She had celebrations for women who achieved recognition in the field of law. Denise excelled, and she gave back.
Denise founded a charitable branch of the Association of Women Lawyers. She started a mentoring group for young women lawyers. Her energy seemed inexhaustible. I remember her pregnancies, giving birth to two healthy boys a dozen or more years ago. I remember meeting her husband, Denise's high school sweetheart.
I remember years ago when she was diagnosed with breast cancer, and her announcement that she had it beat. She deservedly received award after award. When she was on the cover of Kansas City Magazine as a Super Lawyer, I read with interest about her life. The article is attached. Denise Henning. That was in 2011.
Then, in 2012, when her boys were playing baseball, Tim, Denise's husband, had a major heart attack and died. He was only 47 years old. I felt so bad for Denise. I think, I hope, I let her know.
What I did not know then, but came soon to find out, was that just a few months before Tim's death, Denise discovered that her cancer had returned. Her boys were young. Denise called and asked if I knew who could hire her secretary, because she didn't want to leave her employee out in the cold while she ended her practice to tend to her boys and to her health.
Then, Denise started a foundation in memory of her husband, The Henning Family Foundation. She held golf tournaments to purchase AED devices so that if someone had a heart attack in a public, perhaps, unlike her husband, their lives could be saved. Every year we contributed to the foundation so another AED could be purchased. In 2015, with an AED in her car, Denise saved a man's life whose heart had stopped. Henning News Article She received an another award, this time from the Red Cross.
This past May I did not hear from Denise. May is when she held the Tim Henning golf tournaments. I feared her health was deteriorating further. In June, I learned that the Missouri Association of Trial Attorneys was honoring Denise with its highest award, the Tom Strong award. I made sure that I attended the banquet. There is no one I know who was and is more deserving of that award. I sent Denise a long email telling her how much I admired her. Denise accepted the award at the annual banquet. She needed help getting onto the stage. Her boys were with her. She did not look well. I made my way to her and hugged her and told her again how deserving she was.
That was is the last time I ever talked to Denise. I noticed that within the past few weeks, her friends on Facebook had been posting photos of Denise. Denise's oldest son, a teenager, posted a loving tribute to his mother. He wrote of how much his mother had sacrificed for he and his brother in the wake of their father's death.
On Sunday evening, September 11, 2016, Denise died. I cannot stop thinking about her. I cannot stop worrying about her sons. I cannot stop mourning the loss of this wonderful women. I can just imagine how hard Denise's passing is for her loved ones. Denise Henning is irreplaceable. The world is a better place for her having lived among us for oh too short a time. What an amazing person she was.
Denise was a trial lawyer. She had guts. She went to trial when others were too afraid. And, she won. I remember when she started her own firm across the street from ours. Unlike me, Denise was not satisfied just practicing law. She was truly a role model. She was a leader. She volunteered her time doing charitable things. She had celebrations for women who achieved recognition in the field of law. Denise excelled, and she gave back.
Denise founded a charitable branch of the Association of Women Lawyers. She started a mentoring group for young women lawyers. Her energy seemed inexhaustible. I remember her pregnancies, giving birth to two healthy boys a dozen or more years ago. I remember meeting her husband, Denise's high school sweetheart.
I remember years ago when she was diagnosed with breast cancer, and her announcement that she had it beat. She deservedly received award after award. When she was on the cover of Kansas City Magazine as a Super Lawyer, I read with interest about her life. The article is attached. Denise Henning. That was in 2011.
Then, in 2012, when her boys were playing baseball, Tim, Denise's husband, had a major heart attack and died. He was only 47 years old. I felt so bad for Denise. I think, I hope, I let her know.
What I did not know then, but came soon to find out, was that just a few months before Tim's death, Denise discovered that her cancer had returned. Her boys were young. Denise called and asked if I knew who could hire her secretary, because she didn't want to leave her employee out in the cold while she ended her practice to tend to her boys and to her health.
Then, Denise started a foundation in memory of her husband, The Henning Family Foundation. She held golf tournaments to purchase AED devices so that if someone had a heart attack in a public, perhaps, unlike her husband, their lives could be saved. Every year we contributed to the foundation so another AED could be purchased. In 2015, with an AED in her car, Denise saved a man's life whose heart had stopped. Henning News Article She received an another award, this time from the Red Cross.
This past May I did not hear from Denise. May is when she held the Tim Henning golf tournaments. I feared her health was deteriorating further. In June, I learned that the Missouri Association of Trial Attorneys was honoring Denise with its highest award, the Tom Strong award. I made sure that I attended the banquet. There is no one I know who was and is more deserving of that award. I sent Denise a long email telling her how much I admired her. Denise accepted the award at the annual banquet. She needed help getting onto the stage. Her boys were with her. She did not look well. I made my way to her and hugged her and told her again how deserving she was.
That was is the last time I ever talked to Denise. I noticed that within the past few weeks, her friends on Facebook had been posting photos of Denise. Denise's oldest son, a teenager, posted a loving tribute to his mother. He wrote of how much his mother had sacrificed for he and his brother in the wake of their father's death.
On Sunday evening, September 11, 2016, Denise died. I cannot stop thinking about her. I cannot stop worrying about her sons. I cannot stop mourning the loss of this wonderful women. I can just imagine how hard Denise's passing is for her loved ones. Denise Henning is irreplaceable. The world is a better place for her having lived among us for oh too short a time. What an amazing person she was.
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